Avoid the "Backslide": How to move on from an ex

Dear Lori and Jeff,

My boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago after a two-year relationship. We seem to run into each other fairly often as we share the same core group of friends. The problem is that on several occasions, we've ended up going home together, only to regret the decision in the morning. We've both promised not to let it happen again, but it does. How do we stop this cycle and move on?

Signed, Backslider

Break-ups, DatingLori KretSeptember 28, 2018Aspen Relationship Institutebreak-ups, relationship coaching, relationship advice, keep going back to ex, end relationship for good, move on after breakupi, getting back together with ex, move onComment

Why are relationships so hard?

In the past few months, we've received several questions about why relationships are so hard.

It would be convenient to simply say that men are from Mars and women are Venus and the differences in our modes of operation and emotional needs create all of the challenges in relationships. While these gender differences do play a part in the struggle, we've found that same-sex relationships are just as challenging, even with both partners being from the same planet. Our beliefs around why relationships are so hard have more to do with a couple's ability and motivation to adapt to the many transitions that occur during the evolution of most relationships.

Connection, VulnerabilityLori KretJune 8, 2018Aspen Relationship Instituterelationship coaching, couples counseling, relationship advice, Sue Johnson, Gender differences in relationships, relationship transitionsComment

Valentine's Edition: How To Keep Passion and Connection Alive in Your Relationship

Last month, with the start of the new year, we offered a few tips and tools to strengthen the fabric of your relationship. As Valentine’s Day approaches, we invite you to enhance your bond by playing with passion.

Sex and Intimacy, ConnectionLori KretFebruary 12, 2018Aspen Relationship Coachingmarriage counseling, relationship coaching, premarital counseling, relationship advice, Valentine's Day Relationship Advice, How to keep the spark, Strengthen connection in marriage, deeper intimacy, have better sexComment

What To Do When Husband Still Talks To His Ex

Dear Jeff and Lori,

My husband continues to see an old girlfriend from time to time. I’ve told him it bothers me, but he says it’s my insecurities and I have nothing to worry about. I don’t understand why he keeps in contact with her. He thinks I’m being unreasonable. Who’s right?

Signed, Frustrated Wife